Q&A With David D.: Why Do Women Play Games

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Q&A With David D.: "Why Do Women Play Games?"

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THIS WEEK'S QUESTION

Hi, I just want to say that I've had tremendous success and
confidence with women after reading your stuff... I feel
like I understand them so well.  You really do know your
sh**!  I guess it shoulda been obvious that teasing women
and acting cocky was the way to their heart, as you can see
it happening all over, but for some reason this just never
clicked in my brain, and I always had this delusion that
being the nicest, most sensitive guy she's ever met would
make her swoon.  Most of these dating tip books emphasize
conversation, and what to talk about with a women.. while
that doesn't really matter too much, it's your attitude.
Good ups, man.

Anyway, I have a question.  Although I hardly ever fail with
women after being enlightened, when I'm first meeting a girl
and teasing her and being cocky etc etc (you know the drill),
they respond well and seem to be interested in me.  However,
when I ask for the number, lots (not necessarily most, but a
good number) of girls initially say "Oh, my number's
disconnected."  or "I just moved, and haven't gotten new
phone number installed yet."  However, when I give a cocky
response, or even if i just say "yeah right", they
IMMEDIATELY concede and give me their number... and lo and
behold, it works.  I'm just wondering why they make up those
lies if they're going to give in INSTANTLY. I wouldn't
think that this was too important if it happened once or
twice, but there seems to be a trend here.  What's going on?

>MY COMMENTS:

   I'm really glad that you asked this particular question,
because it's hard for a lot of guys to believe that this
kind of thing could be real (or at least so common).

   But the fact is, once you really get out there and
start meeting women, you start to see patterns. And some
of those patterns are quite unexpected.

   My translation of what you just asked is: "Why do
women play games when you ask for their number?"

   In response to your question, I'm going to give a two-
pronged answer:

1) The psychology of what's going on here.

2) How I deal with this particular situation, and others
like it.

THE PSYCHOLOGY

   Let me tell you a short story.

   A few years ago, I did some work with a guy that had
a particularly interesting technique for hiring people.

   Here's what he did: After interviewing people for the
position, he'd call back the one he liked BEST, and say:

   "I wanted to call and thank you for applying for this
job, but I just don't think you're the right person for
the position"... and then he'd listen.

   If the person said "OK, well thank you" he'd just
hang up and call the next favorite one.

   On the other hand, if they said "Wait a minute, I am
the best person for the position, I'm sure of it" etc.
he'd say "Well, tell me more. Why do you think so?"

   I actually listened to him do this live on the
speakerphone one day in his office with a woman that
he had interviewed. Sure enough, when he said "Well,
I just don't think you're the right person..." she
answered with "Why not? I am the best..." etc.

   And, sure enough, he hired her.

   The point here is that in a hiring situation, there
are usually many people applying. An interviewer needs
to have ways of quickly filtering through and
disqualifying the unacceptable candidates. And a SAVVY
interviewer will have ways of quickly finding the
EXCEPTIONAL candidates.

   This was a great technique for doing just that.

   I'm sure you can see where I'm going with this.

   I can remember when I first started "walking up" to
women and trying to get their phone numbers.

   If I had a dollar for every woman that said:

"Why don't you give me yours, and I'll call you instead"

or...

"I don't give out my number"

or...

"I'll give you my pager number"

or...

"I lost my phone and my number is disconnected and the
dog ate my homework and there was an accident..."

   I think you get the picture.

   Well, one fateful day, probably out of frustration,
when a woman started to give me an excuse, I just looked
at her, pointed to the piece of paper I had, and said:

"Just write it down, it's going to be OK."

   And, lo and behold, she wrote her number down.

   I thought "No way, it must have been an accident."

   So I tried it again the next time I got resistance.

   Sure enough, it worked again.

   As a matter of fact, it's worked so well, and so many
times that it's my "standard line" whenever I get
resistance from a woman. Really.

   You'll even find it written explicitly as part of my
"3 Minute Phone Number (and email) Technique" in my book
Double Your Dating.

THE TECHNIQUE

   The long and the short of it is that ATTRACTIVE WOMEN
ARE APPROACHED ALL THE TIME. THEY NEED QUICK, EASY WAYS
TO FIGURE OUT IF YOU'RE EITHER THE REAL DEAL OR A WUSS
THAT GIVES UP AT THE FIRST SIGN OF RESISTANCE.

   Hint: Polite men that say "Oh, OK, sorry for bothering
you..." or "OK, here's my number, call me..." are not
SEXY or ATTRACTIVE.

   On the other hand, men that say (Some of my favorites):

"Oh, it's OK... you don't have a phone? That's nothing to
be embarrassed about" or "And you expect me to believe
that?" in a cocky, funny way instantly telegraph the
message: "I'm not a girly-man that gives up easily, and
I see through your games. I don't buy it" are VERY
ATTRACTIVE. It just says all the right things.

   So here are a few things to remember:

1) Attractive women are approached all the time by men,
and are constantly being asked for their number.

2) If you were a woman who as getting asked for your
phone number forty seven times a day, you'd probably
make excuses yourself.

3) The excuses and "Why don't you give me yours" type
responses weed out about 95% of the losers that have no
spine and no persistence.

4) If you're READY for this in advance, and you KNOW
what you're going to say and do when it happens, AND you
don't answer with a lame, needy, wuss response, you
increase your chances of getting the number DRAMATICALLY.

5) Confident, cocky, funny responses are a great way to
power through these situations.

   Of course, if you use my 3-Minute technique the way
I've presented it in a past newsletter and in my book,
you'll greatly reduce this type of resistance in the
first place, and you'll know exactly what to do if and
when you run into excuses and resistance.

   Let's face it: Attractive women get a lot of
attention. They're not looking for a guy that throws
himself at her, then gives up easily. They're looking
for a guy that has all kinds of self confidence, and
sees right through her games... to the point where he
disarms her and walks away with the digits.

   Think about it.

   And, of course, if you want to learn more about how
the female mind works, plus dozens and dozens of
specific techniques to attract women, get their numbers
and emails, get more dates, and take things to a physical
level, you need to download a copy of my book, "Double
Your Dating". Just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdatingnow.com/ebook/

...and get it now.

If you've read my eBook and want to REALLY get a world-
class education about how to attract women, then I'd
recommend you invest in my new CD Audio program. You
can listen to me personally teach over 12 full hours of
the most advanced concepts available anywhere in the
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http://www.doubleyourdatingnow.com/advancedseries

...for all the details. On that page you'll also find
several samples from the program, so check them out.

   I'll talk to you again soon.

      Your Friend,

      David D.





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